Published in Music Connection in January 2014
KEEPING THE BAND TOGETHER...As every musician knows, this can sometimes be tougher than a two-dollar steak. Fragile egos, clashing visions and money challenges can all put a strain on any band. To find out what can be done to help artists and bands navigate these turbulent waters, professional voice coach Lisa Popeil sat down for a chat with an expert on the subject. He's Lee Jay Berman, a mediator based in Los Angeles who specializes in mediating partnership issues in the music and entertainment business. Known as the "Band Whisperer," Berman gets to the heart of matter.
Music Connection: What's the most common problem that bands are facing?
Berman: Band members often feel like each is giving more than they receive. So each feels under-appreciated all the time. Put four people together who all dream to be rock stars with a hunger, an appetite, and a sense of entitlement for acclaim and you've got four people who feel they're not receiving their fair share.
I surveyed four band members once and asked, "What percentage out of 100% do you feel you deserve?" When I tallied it up, the total came to 210%!
MC: If you could only give one piece of advice to a band, whether emerging or established, what would you advise?
Berman: It is vital that bands schedule business meetings, separate from rehearsals. The biggest problem I see is that bands will meet to refine the music but not meet to deal with their business issues. Meetings should be held when there are NOT problems-clearing the air BEFORE problems come up.
We have become a "politically correct" society where we won't discuss issues we don't agree on. So it's not surprising when band members have different interests, they don't have the skills to talk it through in a non-emotional way. Highly charged emotional issues, such as "Who gets how much of the revenues" gets swept under the rug.
They want to talk about the music, sets, costuming, venues or choosing a name, rather than talk about important things like money, ownership of the band name and publishing.
MC: It is better to have a clear-cut leader from the outset?
Berman: If someone is charismatic, attractive and a leader, it's best to acknowledge that at the outset. Eventually, that person will feel exploited if the split is even. It's a common problem.
By giving the "rock star" member higher compensation, it's an incentive to keep them around. Otherwise, when the going gets tough, they might just leave. The member who leaves to pursue a solo album has only a 5% chance of success, so then everyone loses.
MC: What is the role of the band's manager in all this?
Berman: As soon as something comes up as an issue, it's time to discuss it. Waiting only makes it scarier, more difficult and more expensive. No difficult conversations get better by avoiding them over time.
MC: At what point might a professional mediator, such as yourself, be brought in?
Berman: When there's enough at stake financially, often at about 12 months in. There are volunteer, community mediation programs available to more beginning bands.
MC: Is the mediation process like therapy, where you all meet once a week?
Berman: No. When a band has money, problems, talent and a brand that's marketable, we go into a room, close the door and work it out that same day. But it could take 12 hours.
MC: At what point in a band's career might the services of a mediation attorney be needed? Berman: Actually, conflict within a band can arise AFTER a successful first album or when a member, such as the lead singer, is thinking of leaving for a solo career.
MC: What other suggestions can you give to bands to help them mend their differences and move forward?
Berman: My article "13 Tools for Resolving Conflicts" is available online at http://mediate.com/articles/bermanlj3.cfm. My site is http://leejayberman.com.
For somebody who loves music, there can be no greater tragedy than a band that can't get along and breaks up before they've done their best work together.
Lee Jay Berman is a full-time mediator and trainer based in southern California. He is a Distinguished Fellow with the International Academy of Mediators and a Diplomat with the California and National Academies of Distinguished Neutrals. He is the founder and President of the American Institute of Mediation, offering world class training for the complete mediator. He can be reached at (310) 593-9905 or email@example.com.